Lets clear this up. i obviously can only speak for myself. so here goes! i DO NOT THINK I AM BETTER THAN ANYONE WHO HAD WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY. if you were my aunt or one of my friends whos had it that i SUPPORT you would know this. I understand why people get it. I wanted to get it! When I was in highscshool i looked into it but wasnt quite fat enough for my insurance to pay for it so i couldnt do it. I just accepted the fact i couldnt lose weight, i couldnt get surgery to lose weight, and i would always be fat. I didnt know anyone who lost serious weight naturally. I actually remember telling my sister i didnt think it was actually possible to lose 100lbs without surgery.
then i WOKE UP.
but ashley, if youre not bragging & you dont think youre better because you did it on your own how come you constantly mention you did it without surgery?
I want all the people- LIKE ME- who thought their only option to lose weight was to get surgery to know ITS NOT! it only FEELS like that! you dont have to put yourself at risk for death or infection. you dont need thousands of dollars! you CAN DO IT anyway! i want to hopeless to feel HOPEFUL.
is that a fucking crime?!
DO NOT tell me about how our bodies are different & some bodies really cant lose weight.
unless you have a legit disease that prevents you from losing weight that is bullshit. & even then i dont think weight loss surgery would keep you slim if you have a condition making you fat. if you are so obese you cannot exercise than thats a legit excuse as well, get surgery to get to a weight healthy enough to exercise and then get off your ass.
If you BURN MORE CALORIES THAN YOU TAKE IN YOU WILL LOSE WEIGHT. NO EXCEPTIONS!!
its not a matter of if you CAN do it- because you CAN.
its a matter of if youre WILLING to do it.
SO maybe if it offends you its because deep down you KNOW you couldve done it, and youre upset you will never get to experience what that feels like. I know weight loss surgery is no walk in the park, but lets be honest- if you are one of the patients who actually follows a diet & exercise routine post op you deff couldve done it yourself. maybe not as fast, but you couldve.
if you have some disease or disorder that makes it impossible- NO ONE IS TALKING TO YOU!
and if anyone thinks i am being harsh kiss my ass because i know what i am talking about.
i ate FRIED FOOD EVERYDAY. i ate a couple pizzas, a whole package of velveeta, a few french fries, icecream, chips & dip, a whole box of spaghetti, a whole box of macaroni, spaghettios, and MORE in a god damn week, every week! for years!!! i could eat an entire pack of oreos, and entire large pizza, and family size bag of chips- IN ONE NIGHT. i could get a burrito from taco bell, onion rings from BK & fries from wendys in the SAME MEAL.
i worked out ZERO. there was no bike riding. no jogging. no gym. no kayaking. i sat on the sideline & watched my friends family play basketball on vacation with them EVERY YEAR because i was too out of shape to keep up. I was embarrassed to dance at parties or clubs because i got so sweaty so fast. i needed a nap everyday as well as 9 hours of sleep and was STILL tired.
ive been MOOed at. ive been called names. i got picked on at school. i got laughed at. I didnt have boyfriends. I couldnt shop for clothes at the mall or anywhere for that matter. i couldnt jog HALFWAY UP THE BLOCK. i couldnt play sports with my neice. I was picked last. The ONLY B on my ENTIRE HIGHSCHOOL TRANSCRIPT was in GYM CLASS. All A's. i brought gym clothes everyday. i did everything asked of me. maybe not as fast or as graceful, but i did it. all the other girls got A-. i Got a B. The ONLY B on my transcript.
i moved a thousand miles from my family, had no real income, no real friends, and a pile high as the ceiling of stress. I had no money. i mean NO MONEY. i had the weight of the world on my shoulders.
and i lost over 100lbs on my own.
if i can do it, ANYONE can do it.
THATS what im trying to get out here. not trying to make anyone feel like im better than them. just trying to make people realize i was on their level, and if i did it without surgery- dont feel like surgery is your only hope- because its NOT.
we started out JUST AS BAD. and prob ended up JUST AS GOOD.... so why is it i could do it & you couldnt? thats not the case. we both couldve. I just decided i could. You decided you couldnt. i want to keep other people from feeling like they cant. they can. they dont have to wait for operation day, they can start right now.
well now, imagine that wasnt even directed at me & i got this upset for nothing? lol whether it was aimed at me or not- this is still how i feel. ANYONE who chooses to CAN do it. not that that means if you got surgery you suck. because plenty of people get surgery and stay fat! so obviously you are putting in work if youve taken weight off even with surgery. like i said, i just dont want those who dont have the option to get sugery to feel helpless like i did, because theyre not. i never in a trillion years anticipated id be here today. NEVER. & here i am. yet my surgery never got approved. I didnt need it, and neither do you.
no team is better than the other here. the important part is, no matter what method we used to do it, we all got healthy & took control of our lives. can we just celebrate that instead of being offended or sensitive? im sure going to try!