This needs to be said, because I don't think people realize how insulting it is.
"Don't lose anymore weight!"
"How much more are you going to lose?!"
"Keep some meat on those bones!"
Or any similar phrase you can come up with.
The first reaction of the person you are speaking to is: FUCK OFF.
The second thought may vary by person, but this is what it is for me: Well, considering I only did this for ME, I think it's only my opinion that matters about how much more I want to lose. You see me fully clothed and in many cases- only in pictures! Who uploads their worst picture to their social networks? No one! I obviously choose the pictures that I look my best and am proud of with the world. If you can see my wrinkles or my sag, I got run to Instagram and hash tag #selfie!! You do not know what my body looks like, so how do you know if I have more fat to burn? And "keep some meat on your bones?" The "meat" should be muscle- not fat. I don't know my % of weight, but my trainer says I have very high muscle mass. Therefore- even if I burn every ounce of fat on my body- I will not be skin and bones. Unless I go on a starvation diet, I will never have no meat. And if you follow my journey, you know a starvation diet isn't possible for me.
The thing (for me) is that my project isn't done, I am not happy with how my body looks. I am still saving for surgery. When I have surgery, my skin will be tight and therefore the fat I have left is not going to pull it down and cause it to wrinkle. But in the meantime, I do not like how this looks. So I want to burn as much fat as possible so the looseness of my skin isn't as obvious. I feel like I should do as much of the work on my own before surgery, so I have the best results after.
Until I have no more arm roll, no more leg sag, and some ab definition, I don't intend to stop working and losing! The amount of work I put in deserves to look like that. I want my body to display my hard work, not be hidden by the scars and sag of my past.
I know some guys will say "oh you're too skinny" at some point. I also know guys will say "oh she's too muscley" at some point. I know the kind of body I want, some people don't find "attractive". Well guess what?! I spent my entire life in a body most people didn't find attractive! That's the norm for me, I am OK with that. But at least this time around my body will be a sign of my strength and something I am proud of showing off, rather than a sign of my weaknesses and something I feel like I have to show off to prove a point.
The thing is, I realize people don't realize these comments hurt. I know this because I am guilty of saying it to other people! But at the time, I wasn't living it so I didn't know better. Now I know, and I want more people to know. It's rude. It's insulting. Even if you're thinking it, it's better left unsaid.